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This was a request from one of my boys. Sort of a place to get short answers to
questions. Feel free so send me questions, via email using the mail box above. I'll
answer them openly and honestly.
questions. Feel free so send me questions, via email using the mail box above. I'll
answer them openly and honestly.
Ask Auntie Rhi
1. What's your favorite implement?
That's difficult in that over the years I have amassed quite a collection as you can see in the Gallery
in the Implement folder. “The right tool for the right job” my Grandpa use to say and it holds true
here. A lot depends on the tolerance of the client.
2. What's your favorite scenario?
That's easier, I enjoy the variety, and most of all enjoy creating the scene with the intensity that the
naughty boy or girl will best relate to.
3. What's the most severe spanking you've ever given?
I have found that “severe” is very different to each individual. I don't have a preconceived notion of
how severe a person must take, and yet, again I want it to be as intense as the client desires it to
be. There have been a few occasions that I have stopped a session before the client was really
ready for me to stop. Always based on the condition of the bottom. I don't want to break the skin,
nor even have it weeping.. or there is the condition knows as leather bottom, where the bottom
becomes swollen and takes on an orange peel texture. At that point it's numb anyway. The
condition of the bottom is important to me regardless of whether you have opted for “light red
fading after a short time” or “marks and bruises lasting several days” and anywhere in between.
That's why I don't spank, very long, with pants or undies up... I need to see your bottom to be able
to ascertain how the session is going.
4. There seems to be several ways to administer a mouth soaping (dry soap in mouth, making the
disciplined wet soap their own mouth, Auntie wet soap washing the mouth out, etc.). Do you
believe in administering mouth soapings? How would you wash my mouth with soap for lying
about rummaging through your panty drawer?
I do believe in mouth soapings. Usually what I do, is wet a small bar of ivory soap under the faucet
and then have the naughty boy hold it in his mouth for a specific amount of time. Some of which is
spent listing to a scolding for lying, or foul language, or disrespect, what ever the offense. I have
on occasion used liquid soap and a washcloth squirted the soap in the washcloth and proceeded to
run it on the inside of the naughty boy's mouth and on his tongue, Ms. Betty taught me that one.
Both are very effective.
5. What is your favorite implement to punish naughty boys and girls? My fantasy implement is the
wooden hairbrush (especially the Vermont Country Store Brush) followed closely by the wooden
spoon and then hand. The switch too for some reason although the cane does not "excite" me at all
for some reason. Something about the dread coming over you when cutting your own switch.
I'm kind of like a mechanic, I prefer the right tool for the right job, lol. However, I generally give a
good warm up with my hand to just about everyone, then go to a brush or other small paddle type
implements. I love having a boy cut his own switch for just the reason you stated.... there is an
anticipation that cannot be matched with anything else. Also the back of the legs is the best place to
use a switch. I learned that from my Granny, lol.
6. Do you believe that naughty boys and girls should, at all times, show Auntie respect by
answering her questions with a Yes Ma'am or No Ma'am? If it doesn't matter to you I would like
to have it told to me in the session and reminded when I fail to do so. Would there be a
consequence for each infraction? What would be the punishment?
Absolutely, I think boys and good, should at all time, respond to their elders with yes ma'am or sir..
if not they are naughty and in a situation where they are already being held accountable would
receive 5 swats with each failure to respond appropriately.
7. I know, when reading about spanking experiences, that spankees often say they cannot cry as a
result of their discipline. I have always felt that not only tears but a good sobbing should come by
the end of a good session over the knee. Do your typical naughty nieces and nephews cry or sob
during a discipline session? And do you believe that real tears SHOULD be a part of a true "lesson
learned"? In one of my previous sessions, the Disciplinarian (who was really more of a mistress
than a mommy or auntie) stopped when I was on the verge of tears. I really want to know what it
feels like to reach the point of losing complete control of my emotions and truly feel the loving
effects of being punished for my misdeeds because someone cares enough to discipline me. Real
tears should not be the ending but rather the "beginning" for the Disciplinarian to know that I am
truly sorry and will try not to do that misdeed again. I believe that uncontrollable sobbing will
actually validate that someone really cares. Not sure if this is really something that I can obtain but
would like to. Any thoughts on this Ma'am?
Tears are a real individual thing. Some people cry easily, some are able to cry after a relatively
emotional spanking, and some people try their whole life to be able to let go enough to cry. I don't
"require" tears any more than I "require" a certain severity. I tailor each experience to the individual.
I believe that tears are much more tied to the emotional involvement than to just the pain. Especially
with males, there seems to have to be some underlying guilt that they associate with the spanking at
hand, the need to release that guilt. I do believe that crying is very cathartic and it can be very good
for the ones that are able to achieve it. Even with out tears, many times people feel that a weight
has been lifted as they have been punished and no have a clear slate again.
8. How do you feel about "taking someone by the ear" or "ear pulling" or whatever is the act of
grabbing the naughty one by the ear and taking them to the corner or the punishment chair or
whatever? I believe this is essential when someone is caught "red handed" misbehaving and
immediate punishment is forth coming. Do you use this technique? If so, when?
I've used ear puling, or grabbed an arm or just ordered the person to the bed room... again it's an
individual preference. Just like most want me to pull down their pants and undies but a few want
me to tell them to do it. Some want to be ordered to undress entirely and some really like the
experience of pants at their ankles. I also use a chair, or a bed, generally start otk either way the
second phase might be over the back of a chair or standing at the table.. ..again it's all individual
driven.
9. What are your thoughts on Corner time? Do you use it before, during or after....or a
combination of one or all? I believe that a good hug should follow a disciplinary spanking but is it
before corner time? After? Do you have a penalty for looking around while in the corner? What
about rubbing? Or talking? And what is the punishment? Additional swats? A new session with a
paddle or belt?
I tend to use corner time between sessions of spankings, so I don't hug till the end. There is no
looking around, talking nor touching of the bottom while in corner time. Since it in the middle the
naughty person knows there is more coming, they don't tend to get out of line, lol.
10. Scolding. This is probably the most important aspect of the discipline session for me. A good
scolding can get someone in the proper mindset for the discipline. I am sure you scold but do you
give a good one before the spanking? After too? During the spanking? Also, do you tell the
naughty one what is going to happen next like "you are going over my knee for a good dose of the
hairbrush" or "I am going to wash your mouth out with soap young man"? If I were ever to be so
lucky as to have a permanent Disciplinarian, I would hope that scoldings are developed so that I am
in tears before I am actually over her knee. I prefer there to be no yelling just good firm talking
with finger pointed, etc. Do you stand over the naughty boy/girl while they are sitting? What is
your style?
Yes I do scold and try to tailor the scolding to the clients needs. I'm not a yeller, just firm scolding
reminding the naughty individual of just what brought them across my lap. That can continue
during the spanking or not, as people prefer that both ways.
11. Do you prefer OTK/over the lap? What are your other preferred positions?
Again I tailor the experience to the individual. I have done otk with me in a chair, over one knee on
the bed for upper body support, standing, over a desk or table. I like the variety so many options
are available.
12. I was wondering if you had someone that lives with you that you discipline for regular life
transgression? (I am not hinting that for myself). If so, what are some of the things he/she is
disciplined for and how often do you punish them?
I do not, currently, have anyone that lives with me, but it would definately be part of our
relationship.
13. Do you get many requests from naughty girls? I do not know if there are very many ladies
seeking this sort of thing. How many do you think you have disciplined over the years? Are you
just as strict with them?
I do not have near as many female clients as I do men but over the years probably 10 or so. I have
two currently that are in behavior plan programs so come regularly. I am just a strict with them.
14. Have you always had this interest? When did you administer your first spanking? I assumed
that you were spanked by your Granny. When was your last time over someone’s knee (I am not
a switch just curious, I would like to think that Disciplinarians have been on the other side of the
hairbrush at one time).
Except for a couple of spankings as a child I have not been on the other side of the lap, lol. I
started out in a pretty vanilla relationship. He asked ask if I could consider a domestic discipline
relationship and I had no idea, so I started doing research. Joined a couple of groups, met a couple
of wonderful spankers and went from there. The DD part was fine in our relationship, but later he
wanted full immersion into mother/ baby relationship, like diapered 24/7, baby furniture et al, and
that wasn’t want I wanted in a LTR, so we parted company.
15. Have you ever made someone write lines like "I have been very naughty......."? If so, usually
how many lines? Do you do it before the spanking or do you prefer the naughty one doing them
while sitting a red bottom?
I have used line writing as an adjunct to a spanking punishment, usually between phases of a
spanking so they are indeed sitting on a red bottom. The number, of course depends on the severity
of the infraction… Some times I even make them sit on the "thinking mat" on their red bottom
which is a plastic mat with nubbies on it. Not a comfortable sit when your bottom is sore. The
number can vary
16. Have you ever "grounded" someone as part of a session or in real life?
Not in a session as those are just an hour to 2 hours, but in a behavior plan, for sure. Being
grounded from computer except to talk with me, or only 1 hour of TV at night , it all depends on
what goal we're working on or what they've done to earn the punishment.
17. You mentioned the girls you currently discipline being part of a discipline program, what does
that entail? Do they report misbehavior to you and you determine the punishment? Are they
subject to other things like mouth soapings?
A behavior plan is the same for male or females, in that we set up real life goals, rules,
consequences and rewards. It depends on what they need in their life and the consequences can
include mouth soapings as well as other types of requirements, like sitting on the thinking mat any
time they are at the computer. It's all individualized.
18. I know you tailor discipline to the disciplinee but can you describe a typical spanking? How
many with your hand in the warm-up, how many with the brush, etc.? Just an estimate (if you
don't mind).
I really can't give you an estimate of how many swats I give with my hand or any implement. I
generally do start with the hand for a good bottom warming but how many that takes really
depends entirely on the person. To be honest I’ve never really counted in a hand spanking. I watch
the body language as well as the color and condition of the bottom and gauge the intensity and
duration based on those two cues. Even with the more severe implements, such as the cane or
school paddle, 6 for some is a lot and for others just a start.
19. Have you ever spanked someone in public? What about threatening someone with "when we
get home you are going over my knee" in front of a pretty young lady or something similar?
I have been in situations where I could do that. One time in front of a sales clerk. The boys face
blushed immediately and she looked surprised but kind of smiled, lol. I have spanked a naughty boy
in the back seat of the car in the parking lot at a mall a couple of times. Haven't I Frank… lol.
That's difficult in that over the years I have amassed quite a collection as you can see in the Gallery
in the Implement folder. “The right tool for the right job” my Grandpa use to say and it holds true
here. A lot depends on the tolerance of the client.
2. What's your favorite scenario?
That's easier, I enjoy the variety, and most of all enjoy creating the scene with the intensity that the
naughty boy or girl will best relate to.
3. What's the most severe spanking you've ever given?
I have found that “severe” is very different to each individual. I don't have a preconceived notion of
how severe a person must take, and yet, again I want it to be as intense as the client desires it to
be. There have been a few occasions that I have stopped a session before the client was really
ready for me to stop. Always based on the condition of the bottom. I don't want to break the skin,
nor even have it weeping.. or there is the condition knows as leather bottom, where the bottom
becomes swollen and takes on an orange peel texture. At that point it's numb anyway. The
condition of the bottom is important to me regardless of whether you have opted for “light red
fading after a short time” or “marks and bruises lasting several days” and anywhere in between.
That's why I don't spank, very long, with pants or undies up... I need to see your bottom to be able
to ascertain how the session is going.
4. There seems to be several ways to administer a mouth soaping (dry soap in mouth, making the
disciplined wet soap their own mouth, Auntie wet soap washing the mouth out, etc.). Do you
believe in administering mouth soapings? How would you wash my mouth with soap for lying
about rummaging through your panty drawer?
I do believe in mouth soapings. Usually what I do, is wet a small bar of ivory soap under the faucet
and then have the naughty boy hold it in his mouth for a specific amount of time. Some of which is
spent listing to a scolding for lying, or foul language, or disrespect, what ever the offense. I have
on occasion used liquid soap and a washcloth squirted the soap in the washcloth and proceeded to
run it on the inside of the naughty boy's mouth and on his tongue, Ms. Betty taught me that one.
Both are very effective.
5. What is your favorite implement to punish naughty boys and girls? My fantasy implement is the
wooden hairbrush (especially the Vermont Country Store Brush) followed closely by the wooden
spoon and then hand. The switch too for some reason although the cane does not "excite" me at all
for some reason. Something about the dread coming over you when cutting your own switch.
I'm kind of like a mechanic, I prefer the right tool for the right job, lol. However, I generally give a
good warm up with my hand to just about everyone, then go to a brush or other small paddle type
implements. I love having a boy cut his own switch for just the reason you stated.... there is an
anticipation that cannot be matched with anything else. Also the back of the legs is the best place to
use a switch. I learned that from my Granny, lol.
6. Do you believe that naughty boys and girls should, at all times, show Auntie respect by
answering her questions with a Yes Ma'am or No Ma'am? If it doesn't matter to you I would like
to have it told to me in the session and reminded when I fail to do so. Would there be a
consequence for each infraction? What would be the punishment?
Absolutely, I think boys and good, should at all time, respond to their elders with yes ma'am or sir..
if not they are naughty and in a situation where they are already being held accountable would
receive 5 swats with each failure to respond appropriately.
7. I know, when reading about spanking experiences, that spankees often say they cannot cry as a
result of their discipline. I have always felt that not only tears but a good sobbing should come by
the end of a good session over the knee. Do your typical naughty nieces and nephews cry or sob
during a discipline session? And do you believe that real tears SHOULD be a part of a true "lesson
learned"? In one of my previous sessions, the Disciplinarian (who was really more of a mistress
than a mommy or auntie) stopped when I was on the verge of tears. I really want to know what it
feels like to reach the point of losing complete control of my emotions and truly feel the loving
effects of being punished for my misdeeds because someone cares enough to discipline me. Real
tears should not be the ending but rather the "beginning" for the Disciplinarian to know that I am
truly sorry and will try not to do that misdeed again. I believe that uncontrollable sobbing will
actually validate that someone really cares. Not sure if this is really something that I can obtain but
would like to. Any thoughts on this Ma'am?
Tears are a real individual thing. Some people cry easily, some are able to cry after a relatively
emotional spanking, and some people try their whole life to be able to let go enough to cry. I don't
"require" tears any more than I "require" a certain severity. I tailor each experience to the individual.
I believe that tears are much more tied to the emotional involvement than to just the pain. Especially
with males, there seems to have to be some underlying guilt that they associate with the spanking at
hand, the need to release that guilt. I do believe that crying is very cathartic and it can be very good
for the ones that are able to achieve it. Even with out tears, many times people feel that a weight
has been lifted as they have been punished and no have a clear slate again.
8. How do you feel about "taking someone by the ear" or "ear pulling" or whatever is the act of
grabbing the naughty one by the ear and taking them to the corner or the punishment chair or
whatever? I believe this is essential when someone is caught "red handed" misbehaving and
immediate punishment is forth coming. Do you use this technique? If so, when?
I've used ear puling, or grabbed an arm or just ordered the person to the bed room... again it's an
individual preference. Just like most want me to pull down their pants and undies but a few want
me to tell them to do it. Some want to be ordered to undress entirely and some really like the
experience of pants at their ankles. I also use a chair, or a bed, generally start otk either way the
second phase might be over the back of a chair or standing at the table.. ..again it's all individual
driven.
9. What are your thoughts on Corner time? Do you use it before, during or after....or a
combination of one or all? I believe that a good hug should follow a disciplinary spanking but is it
before corner time? After? Do you have a penalty for looking around while in the corner? What
about rubbing? Or talking? And what is the punishment? Additional swats? A new session with a
paddle or belt?
I tend to use corner time between sessions of spankings, so I don't hug till the end. There is no
looking around, talking nor touching of the bottom while in corner time. Since it in the middle the
naughty person knows there is more coming, they don't tend to get out of line, lol.
10. Scolding. This is probably the most important aspect of the discipline session for me. A good
scolding can get someone in the proper mindset for the discipline. I am sure you scold but do you
give a good one before the spanking? After too? During the spanking? Also, do you tell the
naughty one what is going to happen next like "you are going over my knee for a good dose of the
hairbrush" or "I am going to wash your mouth out with soap young man"? If I were ever to be so
lucky as to have a permanent Disciplinarian, I would hope that scoldings are developed so that I am
in tears before I am actually over her knee. I prefer there to be no yelling just good firm talking
with finger pointed, etc. Do you stand over the naughty boy/girl while they are sitting? What is
your style?
Yes I do scold and try to tailor the scolding to the clients needs. I'm not a yeller, just firm scolding
reminding the naughty individual of just what brought them across my lap. That can continue
during the spanking or not, as people prefer that both ways.
11. Do you prefer OTK/over the lap? What are your other preferred positions?
Again I tailor the experience to the individual. I have done otk with me in a chair, over one knee on
the bed for upper body support, standing, over a desk or table. I like the variety so many options
are available.
12. I was wondering if you had someone that lives with you that you discipline for regular life
transgression? (I am not hinting that for myself). If so, what are some of the things he/she is
disciplined for and how often do you punish them?
I do not, currently, have anyone that lives with me, but it would definately be part of our
relationship.
13. Do you get many requests from naughty girls? I do not know if there are very many ladies
seeking this sort of thing. How many do you think you have disciplined over the years? Are you
just as strict with them?
I do not have near as many female clients as I do men but over the years probably 10 or so. I have
two currently that are in behavior plan programs so come regularly. I am just a strict with them.
14. Have you always had this interest? When did you administer your first spanking? I assumed
that you were spanked by your Granny. When was your last time over someone’s knee (I am not
a switch just curious, I would like to think that Disciplinarians have been on the other side of the
hairbrush at one time).
Except for a couple of spankings as a child I have not been on the other side of the lap, lol. I
started out in a pretty vanilla relationship. He asked ask if I could consider a domestic discipline
relationship and I had no idea, so I started doing research. Joined a couple of groups, met a couple
of wonderful spankers and went from there. The DD part was fine in our relationship, but later he
wanted full immersion into mother/ baby relationship, like diapered 24/7, baby furniture et al, and
that wasn’t want I wanted in a LTR, so we parted company.
15. Have you ever made someone write lines like "I have been very naughty......."? If so, usually
how many lines? Do you do it before the spanking or do you prefer the naughty one doing them
while sitting a red bottom?
I have used line writing as an adjunct to a spanking punishment, usually between phases of a
spanking so they are indeed sitting on a red bottom. The number, of course depends on the severity
of the infraction… Some times I even make them sit on the "thinking mat" on their red bottom
which is a plastic mat with nubbies on it. Not a comfortable sit when your bottom is sore. The
number can vary
16. Have you ever "grounded" someone as part of a session or in real life?
Not in a session as those are just an hour to 2 hours, but in a behavior plan, for sure. Being
grounded from computer except to talk with me, or only 1 hour of TV at night , it all depends on
what goal we're working on or what they've done to earn the punishment.
17. You mentioned the girls you currently discipline being part of a discipline program, what does
that entail? Do they report misbehavior to you and you determine the punishment? Are they
subject to other things like mouth soapings?
A behavior plan is the same for male or females, in that we set up real life goals, rules,
consequences and rewards. It depends on what they need in their life and the consequences can
include mouth soapings as well as other types of requirements, like sitting on the thinking mat any
time they are at the computer. It's all individualized.
18. I know you tailor discipline to the disciplinee but can you describe a typical spanking? How
many with your hand in the warm-up, how many with the brush, etc.? Just an estimate (if you
don't mind).
I really can't give you an estimate of how many swats I give with my hand or any implement. I
generally do start with the hand for a good bottom warming but how many that takes really
depends entirely on the person. To be honest I’ve never really counted in a hand spanking. I watch
the body language as well as the color and condition of the bottom and gauge the intensity and
duration based on those two cues. Even with the more severe implements, such as the cane or
school paddle, 6 for some is a lot and for others just a start.
19. Have you ever spanked someone in public? What about threatening someone with "when we
get home you are going over my knee" in front of a pretty young lady or something similar?
I have been in situations where I could do that. One time in front of a sales clerk. The boys face
blushed immediately and she looked surprised but kind of smiled, lol. I have spanked a naughty boy
in the back seat of the car in the parking lot at a mall a couple of times. Haven't I Frank… lol.
Auntie Rhi, I hope you're capable of stricter discipline than shown on the 2 trailers on your web
site. Paddling over clothes and a light switching are a total waste. Maybe appropriate for a 6 year
old but useless for an adult male. Strict Gram
Well, thanks for your perspective. The severity of a spanking, I deliver for a client, is dependent
on the tolerance of the client and what type of spanking they deserve. I'm sure you have your
own methods, however I spank a variety of people and have found that what is and what isn't a
"total waste" is different for each individual. To each his/her own. If it is part of a behavior plan, a
punishment session is very different.
Take care, Auntie Rhi