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This was a request from one of my boys. Sort of a place to get short answers to
questions. Feel free so send me questions, via email using the mail box above. I'll
answer them openly and honestly.
questions. Feel free so send me questions, via email using the mail box above. I'll
answer them openly and honestly.
Ask Auntie Rhi
1. What's your favorite implement?
That's difficult in that over the years I have amassed quite a collection as you can see in
the Gallery in the Implement folder. “The right tool for the right job” my Grandpa use to
say and it holds true here. A lot depends on the tolerance of the client.
2. What's your favorite scenario?
That's easier, I enjoy the variety, and most of all enjoy creating the scene with the intensity
that the naughty boy or girl will best relate to.
3. What's the most severe spanking you've ever given?
I have found that “severe” is very different to each individual. I don't have a preconceived
notion of how severe a person must take, and yet, again I want it to be as intense as the
client desires it to be. There have been a few occasions that I have stopped a session
before the client was really ready for me to stop. Always based on the condition of the
bottom. I don't want to break the skin, nor even have it weeping.. or there is the condition
knows as leather bottom, where the bottom becomes swollen and takes on an orange peel
texture. At that point it's numb anyway. The condition of the bottom is important to me
regardless of whether you have opted for “light red fading after a short time” or “marks
and bruises lasting several days” and anywhere in between. That's why I don't spank, very
long, with pants or undies up... I need to see your bottom to be able to ascertain how the
session is going.
4. There seems to be several ways to administer a mouth soaping (dry soap in mouth,
making the disciplined wet soap their own mouth, Auntie wet soap washing the mouth out,
etc.). Do you believe in administering mouth soapings? How would you wash my mouth
with soap for lying about rummaging through your panty drawer?
I do believe in mouth soapings. Usually what I do, is wet a small bar of ivory soap under
the faucet and then have the naughty boy hold it in his mouth for a specific amount of
time. Some of which is spent listing to a scolding for lying, or foul language, or disrespect,
what ever the offense. I have on occasion used liquid soap and a washcloth squirted the
soap in the washcloth and proceeded to run it on the inside of the naughty boy's mouth and
on his tongue, Ms. Betty taught me that one. Both are very effective.
5. What is your favorite implement to punish naughty boys and girls? My fantasy
implement is the wooden hairbrush (especially the Vermont Country Store Brush) followed
closely by the wooden spoon and then hand. The switch too for some reason although the
cane does not "excite" me at all for some reason. Something about the dread coming over
you when cutting your own switch.
I'm kind of like a mechanic, I prefer the right tool for the right job, lol. However, I
generally give a good warm up with my hand to just about everyone, then go to a brush or
other small paddle type implements. I love having a boy cut his own switch for just the
reason you stated.... there is an anticipation that cannot be matched with anything else.
Also the back of the legs is the best place to use a switch. I learned that from my Granny,
lol.
6. Do you believe that naughty boys and girls should, at all times, show Auntie respect by
answering her questions with a Yes Ma'am or No Ma'am? If it doesn't matter to you I
would like to have it told to me in the session and reminded when I fail to do so. Would
there be a consequence for each infraction? What would be the punishment?
Absolutely, I think boys and good, should at all time, respond to their elders with yes
ma'am or sir.. if not they are naughty and in a situation where they are already being held
accountable would receive 5 swats with each failure to respond appropriately.
7. I know, when reading about spanking experiences, that spankees often say they cannot
cry as a result of their discipline. I have always felt that not only tears but a good sobbing
should come by the end of a good session over the knee. Do your typical naughty nieces
and nephews cry or sob during a discipline session? And do you believe that real tears
SHOULD be a part of a true "lesson learned"? In one of my previous sessions, the
Disciplinarian (who was really more of a mistress than a mommy or auntie) stopped when
I was on the verge of tears. I really want to know what it feels like to reach the point of
losing complete control of my emotions and truly feel the loving effects of being punished
for my misdeeds because someone cares enough to discipline me. Real tears should not be
the ending but rather the "beginning" for the Disciplinarian to know that I am truly sorry
and will try not to do that misdeed again. I believe that uncontrollable sobbing will actually
validate that someone really cares. Not sure if this is really something that I can obtain but
would like to. Any thoughts on this Ma'am?
Tears are a real individual thing. Some people cry easily, some are able to cry after a
relatively emotional spanking, and some people try their whole life to be able to let go
enough to cry. I don't "require" tears any more than I "require" a certain severity. I tailor
each experience to the individual. I believe that tears are much more tied to the emotional
involvement than to just the pain. Especially with males, there seems to have to be some
underlying guilt that they associate with the spanking at hand, the need to release that guilt.
I do believe that crying is very cathartic and it can be very good for the ones that are able
to achieve it. Even with out tears, many times people feel that a weight has been lifted as
they have been punished and no have a clear slate again.
8. How do you feel about "taking someone by the ear" or "ear pulling" or whatever is the
act of grabbing the naughty one by the ear and taking them to the corner or the punishment
chair or whatever? I believe this is essential when someone is caught "red handed"
misbehaving and immediate punishment is forth coming. Do you use this technique? If
so, when?
I've used ear puling, or grabbed an arm or just ordered the person to the bed room... again
it's an individual preference. Just like most want me to pull down their pants and undies but
a few want me to tell them to do it. Some want to be ordered to undress entirely and some
really like the experience of pants at their ankles. I also use a chair, or a bed, generally start
otk either way the second phase might be over the back of a chair or standing at the table..
..again it's all individual driven.
9. What are your thoughts on Corner time? Do you use it before, during or after....or a
combination of one or all? I believe that a good hug should follow a disciplinary spanking
but is it before corner time? After? Do you have a penalty for looking around while in the
corner? What about rubbing? Or talking? And what is the punishment? Additional
swats? A new session with a paddle or belt?
I tend to use corner time between sessions of spankings, so I don't hug till the end. There
is no looking around, talking nor touching of the bottom while in corner time. Since it in
the middle the naughty person knows there is more coming, they don't tend to get out of
line, lol.
10. Scolding. This is probably the most important aspect of the discipline session for me.
A good scolding can get someone in the proper mindset for the discipline. I am sure you
scold but do you give a good one before the spanking? After too? During the spanking?
Also, do you tell the naughty one what is going to happen next like "you are going over my
knee for a good dose of the hairbrush" or "I am going to wash your mouth out with soap
young man"? If I were ever to be so lucky as to have a permanent Disciplinarian, I would
hope that scoldings are developed so that I am in tears before I am actually over her knee.
I prefer there to be no yelling just good firm talking with finger pointed, etc. Do you stand
over the naughty boy/girl while they are sitting? What is your style?
Yes I do scold and try to tailor the scolding to the clients needs. I'm not a yeller, just firm
scolding reminding the naughty individual of just what brought them across my lap. That
can continue during the spanking or not, as people prefer that both ways.
11. Do you prefer OTK/over the lap? What are your other preferred positions?
Again I tailor the experience to the individual. I have done otk with me in a chair, over one
knee on the bed for upper body support, standing, over a desk or table. I like the variety so
many options are available.
12. I was wondering if you had someone that lives with you that you discipline for regular
life transgression? (I am not hinting that for myself). If so, what are some of the things
he/she is disciplined for and how often do you punish them?
I do not, currently, have anyone that lives with me, but it would definately be part of our
relationship.
13. Do you get many requests from naughty girls? I do not know if there are very many
ladies seeking this sort of thing. How many do you think you have disciplined over the
years? Are you just as strict with them?
I do not have near as many female clients as I do men but over the years probably 10 or
so. I have two currently that are in behavior plan programs so come regularly. I am just a
strict with them.
14. Have you always had this interest? When did you administer your first spanking? I
assumed that you were spanked by your Granny. When was your last time over someone’
s knee (I am not a switch just curious, I would like to think that Disciplinarians have been
on the other side of the hairbrush at one time).
Except for a couple of spankings as a child I have not been on the other side of the lap, lol.
I started out in a pretty vanilla relationship. He asked ask if I could consider a domestic
discipline relationship and I had no idea, so I started doing research. Joined a couple of
groups, met a couple of wonderful spankers and went from there. The DD part was fine in
our relationship, but later he wanted full immersion into mother/ baby relationship, like
diapered 24/7, baby furniture et al, and that wasn’t want I wanted in a LTR, so we parted
company.
15. Have you ever made someone write lines like "I have been very naughty......."? If so,
usually how many lines? Do you do it before the spanking or do you prefer the naughty
one doing them while sitting a red bottom?
I have used line writing as an adjunct to a spanking punishment, usually between phases of
a spanking so they are indeed sitting on a red bottom. The number, of course depends on
the severity of the infraction… Some times I even make them sit on the "thinking mat" on
their red bottom which is a plastic mat with nubbies on it. Not a comfortable sit when your
bottom is sore. The number can vary
16. Have you ever "grounded" someone as part of a session or in real life?
Not in a session as those are just an hour to 2 hours, but in a behavior plan, for sure. Being
grounded from computer except to talk with me, or only 1 hour of TV at night , it all
depends on what goal we're working on or what they've done to earn the punishment.
17. You mentioned the girls you currently discipline being part of a discipline program,
what does that entail? Do they report misbehavior to you and you determine the
punishment? Are they subject to other things like mouth soapings?
A behavior plan is the same for male or females, in that we set up real life goals, rules,
consequences and rewards. It depends on what they need in their life and the
consequences can include mouth soapings as well as other types of requirements, like
sitting on the thinking mat any time they are at the computer. It's all individualized.
18. I know you tailor discipline to the disciplinee but can you describe a typical spanking?
How many with your hand in the warm-up, how many with the brush, etc.? Just an
estimate (if you don't mind).
I really can't give you an estimate of how many swats I give with my hand or any
implement. I generally do start with the hand for a good bottom warming but how many
that takes really depends entirely on the person. To be honest I’ve never really counted in a
hand spanking. I watch the body language as well as the color and condition of the bottom
and gauge the intensity and duration based on those two cues. Even with the more severe
implements, such as the cane or school paddle, 6 for some is a lot and for others just a
start.
19. Have you ever spanked someone in public? What about threatening someone with
"when we get home you are going over my knee" in front of a pretty young lady or
something similar?
I have been in situations where I could do that. One time in front of a sales clerk. The boys
face blushed immediately and she looked surprised but kind of smiled, lol. I have spanked a
naughty boy in the back seat of the car in the parking lot at a mall a couple of times.
Haven't I Frank… lol.
That's difficult in that over the years I have amassed quite a collection as you can see in
the Gallery in the Implement folder. “The right tool for the right job” my Grandpa use to
say and it holds true here. A lot depends on the tolerance of the client.
2. What's your favorite scenario?
That's easier, I enjoy the variety, and most of all enjoy creating the scene with the intensity
that the naughty boy or girl will best relate to.
3. What's the most severe spanking you've ever given?
I have found that “severe” is very different to each individual. I don't have a preconceived
notion of how severe a person must take, and yet, again I want it to be as intense as the
client desires it to be. There have been a few occasions that I have stopped a session
before the client was really ready for me to stop. Always based on the condition of the
bottom. I don't want to break the skin, nor even have it weeping.. or there is the condition
knows as leather bottom, where the bottom becomes swollen and takes on an orange peel
texture. At that point it's numb anyway. The condition of the bottom is important to me
regardless of whether you have opted for “light red fading after a short time” or “marks
and bruises lasting several days” and anywhere in between. That's why I don't spank, very
long, with pants or undies up... I need to see your bottom to be able to ascertain how the
session is going.
4. There seems to be several ways to administer a mouth soaping (dry soap in mouth,
making the disciplined wet soap their own mouth, Auntie wet soap washing the mouth out,
etc.). Do you believe in administering mouth soapings? How would you wash my mouth
with soap for lying about rummaging through your panty drawer?
I do believe in mouth soapings. Usually what I do, is wet a small bar of ivory soap under
the faucet and then have the naughty boy hold it in his mouth for a specific amount of
time. Some of which is spent listing to a scolding for lying, or foul language, or disrespect,
what ever the offense. I have on occasion used liquid soap and a washcloth squirted the
soap in the washcloth and proceeded to run it on the inside of the naughty boy's mouth and
on his tongue, Ms. Betty taught me that one. Both are very effective.
5. What is your favorite implement to punish naughty boys and girls? My fantasy
implement is the wooden hairbrush (especially the Vermont Country Store Brush) followed
closely by the wooden spoon and then hand. The switch too for some reason although the
cane does not "excite" me at all for some reason. Something about the dread coming over
you when cutting your own switch.
I'm kind of like a mechanic, I prefer the right tool for the right job, lol. However, I
generally give a good warm up with my hand to just about everyone, then go to a brush or
other small paddle type implements. I love having a boy cut his own switch for just the
reason you stated.... there is an anticipation that cannot be matched with anything else.
Also the back of the legs is the best place to use a switch. I learned that from my Granny,
lol.
6. Do you believe that naughty boys and girls should, at all times, show Auntie respect by
answering her questions with a Yes Ma'am or No Ma'am? If it doesn't matter to you I
would like to have it told to me in the session and reminded when I fail to do so. Would
there be a consequence for each infraction? What would be the punishment?
Absolutely, I think boys and good, should at all time, respond to their elders with yes
ma'am or sir.. if not they are naughty and in a situation where they are already being held
accountable would receive 5 swats with each failure to respond appropriately.
7. I know, when reading about spanking experiences, that spankees often say they cannot
cry as a result of their discipline. I have always felt that not only tears but a good sobbing
should come by the end of a good session over the knee. Do your typical naughty nieces
and nephews cry or sob during a discipline session? And do you believe that real tears
SHOULD be a part of a true "lesson learned"? In one of my previous sessions, the
Disciplinarian (who was really more of a mistress than a mommy or auntie) stopped when
I was on the verge of tears. I really want to know what it feels like to reach the point of
losing complete control of my emotions and truly feel the loving effects of being punished
for my misdeeds because someone cares enough to discipline me. Real tears should not be
the ending but rather the "beginning" for the Disciplinarian to know that I am truly sorry
and will try not to do that misdeed again. I believe that uncontrollable sobbing will actually
validate that someone really cares. Not sure if this is really something that I can obtain but
would like to. Any thoughts on this Ma'am?
Tears are a real individual thing. Some people cry easily, some are able to cry after a
relatively emotional spanking, and some people try their whole life to be able to let go
enough to cry. I don't "require" tears any more than I "require" a certain severity. I tailor
each experience to the individual. I believe that tears are much more tied to the emotional
involvement than to just the pain. Especially with males, there seems to have to be some
underlying guilt that they associate with the spanking at hand, the need to release that guilt.
I do believe that crying is very cathartic and it can be very good for the ones that are able
to achieve it. Even with out tears, many times people feel that a weight has been lifted as
they have been punished and no have a clear slate again.
8. How do you feel about "taking someone by the ear" or "ear pulling" or whatever is the
act of grabbing the naughty one by the ear and taking them to the corner or the punishment
chair or whatever? I believe this is essential when someone is caught "red handed"
misbehaving and immediate punishment is forth coming. Do you use this technique? If
so, when?
I've used ear puling, or grabbed an arm or just ordered the person to the bed room... again
it's an individual preference. Just like most want me to pull down their pants and undies but
a few want me to tell them to do it. Some want to be ordered to undress entirely and some
really like the experience of pants at their ankles. I also use a chair, or a bed, generally start
otk either way the second phase might be over the back of a chair or standing at the table..
..again it's all individual driven.
9. What are your thoughts on Corner time? Do you use it before, during or after....or a
combination of one or all? I believe that a good hug should follow a disciplinary spanking
but is it before corner time? After? Do you have a penalty for looking around while in the
corner? What about rubbing? Or talking? And what is the punishment? Additional
swats? A new session with a paddle or belt?
I tend to use corner time between sessions of spankings, so I don't hug till the end. There
is no looking around, talking nor touching of the bottom while in corner time. Since it in
the middle the naughty person knows there is more coming, they don't tend to get out of
line, lol.
10. Scolding. This is probably the most important aspect of the discipline session for me.
A good scolding can get someone in the proper mindset for the discipline. I am sure you
scold but do you give a good one before the spanking? After too? During the spanking?
Also, do you tell the naughty one what is going to happen next like "you are going over my
knee for a good dose of the hairbrush" or "I am going to wash your mouth out with soap
young man"? If I were ever to be so lucky as to have a permanent Disciplinarian, I would
hope that scoldings are developed so that I am in tears before I am actually over her knee.
I prefer there to be no yelling just good firm talking with finger pointed, etc. Do you stand
over the naughty boy/girl while they are sitting? What is your style?
Yes I do scold and try to tailor the scolding to the clients needs. I'm not a yeller, just firm
scolding reminding the naughty individual of just what brought them across my lap. That
can continue during the spanking or not, as people prefer that both ways.
11. Do you prefer OTK/over the lap? What are your other preferred positions?
Again I tailor the experience to the individual. I have done otk with me in a chair, over one
knee on the bed for upper body support, standing, over a desk or table. I like the variety so
many options are available.
12. I was wondering if you had someone that lives with you that you discipline for regular
life transgression? (I am not hinting that for myself). If so, what are some of the things
he/she is disciplined for and how often do you punish them?
I do not, currently, have anyone that lives with me, but it would definately be part of our
relationship.
13. Do you get many requests from naughty girls? I do not know if there are very many
ladies seeking this sort of thing. How many do you think you have disciplined over the
years? Are you just as strict with them?
I do not have near as many female clients as I do men but over the years probably 10 or
so. I have two currently that are in behavior plan programs so come regularly. I am just a
strict with them.
14. Have you always had this interest? When did you administer your first spanking? I
assumed that you were spanked by your Granny. When was your last time over someone’
s knee (I am not a switch just curious, I would like to think that Disciplinarians have been
on the other side of the hairbrush at one time).
Except for a couple of spankings as a child I have not been on the other side of the lap, lol.
I started out in a pretty vanilla relationship. He asked ask if I could consider a domestic
discipline relationship and I had no idea, so I started doing research. Joined a couple of
groups, met a couple of wonderful spankers and went from there. The DD part was fine in
our relationship, but later he wanted full immersion into mother/ baby relationship, like
diapered 24/7, baby furniture et al, and that wasn’t want I wanted in a LTR, so we parted
company.
15. Have you ever made someone write lines like "I have been very naughty......."? If so,
usually how many lines? Do you do it before the spanking or do you prefer the naughty
one doing them while sitting a red bottom?
I have used line writing as an adjunct to a spanking punishment, usually between phases of
a spanking so they are indeed sitting on a red bottom. The number, of course depends on
the severity of the infraction… Some times I even make them sit on the "thinking mat" on
their red bottom which is a plastic mat with nubbies on it. Not a comfortable sit when your
bottom is sore. The number can vary
16. Have you ever "grounded" someone as part of a session or in real life?
Not in a session as those are just an hour to 2 hours, but in a behavior plan, for sure. Being
grounded from computer except to talk with me, or only 1 hour of TV at night , it all
depends on what goal we're working on or what they've done to earn the punishment.
17. You mentioned the girls you currently discipline being part of a discipline program,
what does that entail? Do they report misbehavior to you and you determine the
punishment? Are they subject to other things like mouth soapings?
A behavior plan is the same for male or females, in that we set up real life goals, rules,
consequences and rewards. It depends on what they need in their life and the
consequences can include mouth soapings as well as other types of requirements, like
sitting on the thinking mat any time they are at the computer. It's all individualized.
18. I know you tailor discipline to the disciplinee but can you describe a typical spanking?
How many with your hand in the warm-up, how many with the brush, etc.? Just an
estimate (if you don't mind).
I really can't give you an estimate of how many swats I give with my hand or any
implement. I generally do start with the hand for a good bottom warming but how many
that takes really depends entirely on the person. To be honest I’ve never really counted in a
hand spanking. I watch the body language as well as the color and condition of the bottom
and gauge the intensity and duration based on those two cues. Even with the more severe
implements, such as the cane or school paddle, 6 for some is a lot and for others just a
start.
19. Have you ever spanked someone in public? What about threatening someone with
"when we get home you are going over my knee" in front of a pretty young lady or
something similar?
I have been in situations where I could do that. One time in front of a sales clerk. The boys
face blushed immediately and she looked surprised but kind of smiled, lol. I have spanked a
naughty boy in the back seat of the car in the parking lot at a mall a couple of times.
Haven't I Frank… lol.